(an article from Erik Raymond that has me thinking)
With a title like this there is little room for dilly-dallying along the way to the answer. So without much introduction, here is the tip that could save your marriage: Get a part-time job.
There. That’s it. Husbands, if you want to save or strengthen your marriage, get a part-time job.
I should say right off the bat that I am not talking about a literal job that will pull you away from the home for more hours. Instead I’m arguing for the husband to approach his time at home with his family with the same thoughtful intentionality and engagement that he would if he were to go to work.
Far too many marriages are suffering because the husband comes home mentally, physically and emotionally zapped from his work day. He has done well as the provider for the home and now he is going to come home and collapse into a lazy-boy (aptly named) or in front of a computer or some other process of decompression and relaxation from a tough day at work. This type of thing may be ok occasionally but if practiced regularly it will lead to major problems.(HT:Z)
Please read the whole article. It has this great statement from Erik's wife, that started him thinking, "Hey, we don’t want your left-overs. Don’t give everyone else your best only to serve us left-overs.”
Do weigh in: How do we husbands get the strength and energy we need to be good husbands and fathers at home? Any ideas?